Introduction to My Family

This is a picture of my family presenting a manuscript of one of my books to Secretary of State Hilary Clinton.

From left to right: my younger son, Pavit S. Sabharwal, MS; me, Harsimran Singh, Ph.D.; Hillary Clinton; my daughter, Punit K. Sabharwal, Esq.; my lovely wife, Satnam K. Sabharwal, MD; and my eldest son, Gunit S. Sabharwal, Esq.

My family has been, and will always be, very important to me. I am very proud of them and am fortunate to have been blessed with them, for as much as I have taught them about life, they have taught me.

Best,

Dr. Singh

http://www.drsinghbooks.com/

Learn to Forgive

A Positive attitude is akin to a blazing fire.
If fuel is not continuously added, the fire always gets extinguished.

Forgiveness is a great attribute. In the process of forgiveness, we stand to gain immensely because the same energy used to forgive heals us as well. Here are some suggestions to cultivate the habit of forgiveness.

#1 Offer a Prayer. When someone hurts you, immediately offer a prayer to God to ask for His help, so you may forget this hurt.


#2 Writer a Letter. If you are unable to forget, write a letter to the person against who you are holding a grudge. Write as many harsh words towards him as you can then tear the letter into pieces.


#3 Forgive yourself too. Don't carry within you a feeling of guilt. No one is perfect; we must repent and make amends.


#4 Do not hold resentment. By holding resentment, you will definitely harm yourself.


#5 Every night, think of all the people who hurt you. Say, "I forgive you" and you will have a sound sleep.

#6 Make forgiveness a habit. God forgives us, again and again. If you cannot forgive your fellow human beings, who are God's creatures, what right do you have to be forgiven by Him?


#7 Forgive, even before forgiveness is asked. You should do this when you feel that the person who hurt you is repenting within himself. You will be able to concentrate towards positive developments in your life, rather than remain thinking about the past.


#8 Love the person who has wronged you. By transforming vengeance into love, both parties are healed. Through love, enemies will become friends.


Dr. Singh

http://www.drsinghbooks.com/

Letting Go of Ego

Consider impediments as challenges,
knowing that obstacles are the stepping stones of success.

Ego-centric nature is a disease of the mind that assumes epidemic proportions and leads one astray. It is a bane that must be banished into exile, if one aspires to taste the true elixir of success. Under such an influence, one tends to gravitate towards anger and greed, malice and avarice, deceit and violence to usurp the rights of others. All of this will happen, when one lives under an illusion of some kind of superiority.

All enemies of the mind and all vices affecting the soul must be relegated to oblivion and banished forever. These enemies are very subtle and obscure; they are clever and shrewd, tactical and manipulative.

The vices include ego-centric nature, deception, greed, hypocrisy and sycophancy. They may ensure financial success but we want enduring success and success that is self-empowering and all embracing. Envy and exultation with business rivals or amongst fellow colleagues result in a sense of utter frustration and could lead to depravity and stress.

The vices cannot be eliminated but can be guided properly to give us a positive energy rather than becoming our barriers to success. Remember that a dam, which is built as an obstruction to the natural flow of water, can also provide energy by proper utilization of the water pressure.

Dr. Singh

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The Delegation of Tasks

Not using your smile is like having a million dollars in your account
without the privilege to withdraw any money.

Delegating responsibility is one of the key factors in any venture. When authority is centralized in one individual, then responsibility of the same should not be fixed on another. Authority and responsibility go hand in hand.

A pyramid structure is always more productive. Oftentimes, individuals typically harbor the thought, "Oh, I can do better than all of them put together," or, "I am the best amongst all."

Yet one must rise above this by pondering over the fact that several people working towards the accomplishment of a goal means so many more pairs of hands and so many hours are being put in. Think of a situation whereby you have to build a house. You may have the greatest desire to build the house by yourself but it may take you years to complete the work. Sometimes this is due to a lack of knowledge or experience.

One man's brain plus one other will produce double the ideas as one producing alone. These two minds plus two more will produce four times as much, as so on. A larger group will begin to represent a creative meeting and the ratio keeps on multiplying.

Even God delegated his responsibility to others by residing in each one of us. We try to subdue that voice through our ego but God, the resident inside us, shows us the right path.

Dr. Singh

Exude Confidence

We are born with positive mental attitudes, 

while we acquire negative mental attitudes.

Confidence moves mountains, can make a way against tidal waves, and has the potency to fly in the sky against all odds. 

The words uttered must have the potency of influencing the listener. Confidence is contagious. Overconfidence, though not advisable, is far better than a total lack of confidence. Overconfidence may result in failure en-route to eventual success, while a lack of confidence shall become a permanent shortcoming thereby affecting the individual's personality. 

People tend to gravitate towards, and follow, a confident person, even if he or she does not want to be the leader. Charismatic individuals have been known to change the lives of innumerable people drawn to them, be it in the form of material success or spiritual elevation. 

Confidence is something which should not be superficially displayed but is built upon strong foundations of courage, conviction, clarity of vision, self-esteem, sincerity of purpose, and honesty. 

When the seed of imagination is bestowed with adequate sunshine of knowledge, along with the irrigation, fertilizers, and oxygen of confidence, it grows into success. 

Whatever you do, require confidence in ample measure, especially when you find someone who tells you that you are wrong. 

Dr. Singh

A Blessing: The Power of Positivity

A positive mind discovers ways and means: It must be done.
A negative mind invents ways and means: It will not be done.

Blessings are many and they include faith, hope, optimism, endurance, perseverance, sincerity, courage of conviction, and selfless-service. In the midst of manifold problems, we must count our blessings gifted to us in the form of a loving family, sound health, mental equilibrium, financial security, social prestige, education and wisdom. Benediction in the form of success is the prize one receives.

Ignore negativity you receive from others. In order to keep high spirits, whereby good thoughts will come, one must get rid of negative thoughts. A cheerful mood cannot be cultivated without being thankful for blessings.

Feel good about yourself; only then you receive positive energizing thoughts and ideas that will prove to be constructive and productive not only for yourself but even for others. If someone talks negatively about you, take it as a blessing.

By remaining aloof from the influence of praise and criticism, one can make great progress and achieve success. If you are looking for encouragement from others, then you would easily get discouraged if they fail to praise you. In such a case, you would begin to concentrate upon the applause of others, rather than making efforts and devising ways and means of improving your performance based on past experiences.

The greatest blessings come from one's conscience whereby they congratulate themselves for their own success. You must make improvements and advances, breaking away from a tumultuous past.

Dr. Singh

http://www.drsinghbooks.com

The Importance of a Healthy Attitude

A Healthy Attitude + 100 Problems = Guaranteed SUCCESS.
An Unhealthy Attitude + 100 Supports = Definite Failure.

Acceptance of the reality of any situation is a prerequisite for any desired result to be achieved. Acceptance also means that we accept each other, as we are, without imposing any preconditions whatsoever, and then make earnest attempts to grow together from there.

When we desire to change in others, we must realize how difficult it is to bring about change in ourselves. Only if the other person accepts you as a well wisher, he would be willing to listen to your advice and then bring about change in himself. As we grow older, our physical strength gets depleted.

We must accept this as a reality, as a natural phenomenon, rather than continuing to complain about it. Each person has some admirable qualities and some undesirable ones too.

We must accept the cherished attributes and overlook the negatives in each person. All humans are imperfect. We must learn to accept sorrows of life as we accept pleasures. Learn to accept and understand that so many things are beyond our control, like the deaths of relatives and friends due to terminal sickness or other causes. Our non-acceptance of the reality only elevates the problem for ourselves and others.

Nature has made man and woman so different, as if they come from two different planets. A multitude of family problems and divorces can be avoided if a woman does not expect the man to like what she likes, and vice versa. Of course, there is no formula for success except, perhaps, an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings.

Dr. Singh
http://www.drsinghbooks.com/

Blog Introduction

Hello All and Welcome to my Blog. My name is Dr. Singh and I invite you to share in my joys and experiences of life. Oftentimes, people write to make themselves feel better. I would certainly agree to an extent. However, my purpose of writing is much more than that, as I write to help and console others. I offer my stories and advice because I am so grateful for things I have been able to experience and attain in my life here in the United States.

The following entries will discuss certain “Steps to Success” which have helped me become the person I am today. These writings, and many other materials, can be found on my newly launched website http://www.drsinghbooks.com/. I hope you may choose to follow along and use these positive words and experiences to promote a better, happier, and more successful you.

Dr. Singh