Passage from How to Always Be Unhappy

This is a passage from How to Always Be Unhappy, a work in progress. You can read more about this book on my website, http://drsinghbooks.com

Murphy’s Law is the notion that anything that can go wrong will go wrong if given the opportunity. We’ve all had days where it feels like the sky is falling. You are sure the weather report called for clear skies and sunny days, yet that gray cloud keeps following you around, raining on your parade. The alarm clock doesn’t go off, your dry cleaning isn’t ready, the car won’t start and, when it does, the traffic resembles Times Square on New Year’s Eve, only you can’t even rock out with Dick Clark. You start to wonder what your day would have been like if you just stayed in bed and buried your head under the covers. Or, maybe you have a huge presentation at the office or in school. Whatever the reason, failure is out there somewhere, lurking, waiting to pounce on you. There’s no telling how many hurdles will be thrown in your path today.

Life does not take anyone’s plans or personal convenience into consideration. Therefore it is imperative that we must be able to adapt and overcome these detours from time to time in order to survive. That may sound a bit drastic or dramatic because it’s obvious that most people do not actually face survival, as in life or death choices, every day. But each one of us faces challenges both big and small throughout our everyday lives. Those situations arise in every aspect of our lives from our personal relationships with family and friends to professional forums with clients, partners, colleagues, etc. So here’s the big news, you are NOT going to win every challenge, clear every hurdle cleanly, or make every correct decision.

Learn to Be Fearless

The following is an excerpt from the book I am currently working on, "How to Always Be Unhappy."

Especially in uncertain economic times, it’s not difficult for so many people to allow fear to enter, overcome, and control their lives. We fear losing what we have and, perhaps, losing what we have yet to attain. We have worked hard towards goals and have built a foundation on which to support our goals and dreams but we are unsure of our outcomes. There are certain comforts, such as peace of mind and financial stability, which we acquire through the maturation process of our lives. However, many times we become comfortable because we fear loss. Many people become complacent with their routine, habits, and ways of life because it has worked well enough for them so far in their lives.

When did “well enough” become the best way to make you happy? As we have discussed, we all must be rational and realistic about our goals and dreams in life, as wanting can lead us mad and cause us to go astray. Fear, too, can lead us down this path because it prevents us from acting and leaves us waiting alone with our wants. If we are able to identify and analyze our fears, we’re able to more effectively address how they affect our lives, decisions, and futures.

Dr. Singh
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